Okay, I’ll wait.
And now, read on…
I think the amount of space between the children makes a big difference in how stressful it is — or at least in the type of stress a person experiences. In my case, when #3 was born, that meant I had 3 children under the age of 5 and that was very stressful for me. In fact, I kind of swore off ever doing that again…but I was on my way to doing that when Gregory was still with us. But then, in the case of someone that has…say 4 or 6 or 8 years between their second and third child, I can see that being a little easier because the older children could possibly help more, but I can see it being highly stressful to go back to the baby stage after so long out of the baby stage.
You see…I think those would be stressful even if it was #4 (if the youngest three would all be under the age of 5) or even if it was #7 coming along about 5 years after #6. I just don’t think it has so much to do with it being THREE KIDS, as I think it has to do with the ages and stages of the family involved.
“46 percent of moms say their husbands/partners cause them more stress than their kids do.”
I mean, it just seems odd to lob a statistic like that out there and leave us all to our imaginations. WHY would husbands/partners cause more stress? Is it because they put pressure on the women to maintain a certain physical appearance? Or do they put pressure on the women to limit the children they are open to? Or do they spend money willy-nilly? I am annoyed at the mention of a statistic like this and leaves it to our imagination just what annoying things said husbands/partners are doing.
The comments from the mom of four (including twins) annoyed me, too. First of all, she’s no longer in the throes of raising children, so her mind is muddled. I’m only 12 years in and I have five children and even I can tell you that I look back fondly and have forgotten all the details of the early years with Sarah, but since I am currently experiencing age 1-4 with my boys, I am reminded that surely I was frustrated and spent a lot of time in a fog when I had Sarah, Dani and Helen all from age newborn to age 4 and it wasn’t something I routinely laugh off. Sure, I survived, but I don’t think I’d appreciate reading someone making light of the early years and then turning around saying the stress is still high when the children are grown. Note: I am not saying there’s not stress with the older children.
I don’t foresee stressing out over my kids’ finals at school — I figure that is on them. Same with the job interview. Of course, I don’t plan to pay for college entirely either. So maybe that has something to do with my attitude.
I started crossfit this week. The first workout was Tuesday and it was the same workout we will do in four weeks to gauge improvement. It was a 200M run and then we came in and did three sets of three exercises: Ring Rows, Push-ups, Air Squats (we did 15 of each, then 12 of each then 9 of each) and finished with 200M run. I did it in 8:48. So I’ll be interested to see how I do in four weeks!
The Thursday night workout was a warm up of 400M run, then they taught us the movements for a dead lift and a Press and a Push-Press. Then we did a “10s” workout which meant we did 10 kettleball dead-lifts, 10 Push-Press; 9 kettleball dead-lifts, 9 Push-Press all the way down to 1 each. My time was 7:02.
I’m fascinated by this timing of everything. That’s a motivator for a person like me, so I’m interested to see how this works into all the workouts going forward.
Before anyone worries I’m going to let Helen go all Honey-Boo-Boo or anything, this particular organization has a strict no make-up rule for girls 12 and under, and the categories they focus on are community involvement, interview skills, public speaking and work to teach the girls poise and develop their confidence.
So they called us last night and said Helen is a state finalist. My baby girl will be in the Miss Missouri Princess category at the Missouri Pageant August 9-10. She was literally GLOWING when we told her they’d called to say she’s been selected.
Here she is in a picture she took with a reigning Miss MIssouri (I can’t remember if she is the Jr. Preteen, Preteen or Jr. Teen):
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