Craig is completely on his own this weekend. He will probably attend Mass, but other than that has no commitment other than his job. In the comments today, let’s have a little fun! Please leave a suggestion, thought, idea, or prediction of what–besides work at his job—you would think Craig will do this weekend!
I hope you have a fabulous weekend!
After I wrote my post the other day on how the Marquette Method works, I found myself wondering what the fuss was all about using a natural method of spacing babies anyway?
I thought a little bit about how nervous I was to broach the subject with my husband 10+ years ago that we really ought to give this Natural Family Planning thing a shot. Why was I so nervous? It was probably due to my unfamiliarity with doing something that seemed like doing nothing.
High school sex ed says “Natural Family Planning” equals “Rhythm Method” equals completely UNRELIABLE, therefore, it is scary to think about venturing into that unknown. But really, with the science surrounding fertility and multiple NFP methods (Marquette, Sympto-Thermal, Creighton, Billings) NFP is anything BUT “doing nothing.” Working with our bodies’ biorhythms instead of fighting or trying to squelch them makes so much more sense to me NOW. But it didn’t before I gave it a whirl.
Further, presenting contraception as the only reliable way to space babies borders a bit on an outright falsehood. Nothing is 100% effective, except abstinence, and that goes for married, un-married, teenager, 20-something…the only sure-fire way to know you’re not going to be pregnant is not to engage in sex. Raise your hand if you have ever met someone who was a result of a pill-popping failure? The little insert that comes with the pills states that there is a chance for “breakthrough ovulation.”
About a month ago, I read Rebecca’s post at Shoved to Them where she detailed how many times she was blessed as a result of contraceptive method failures. Of course, she doesn’t see the children as failures at all…but when one experiences just about every contraceptive-failure possible (just about…not every of course), one might start to understand that a Natural Family Planning method is certainly just as reliable as all those other contraceptive methods, and honestly…a whole lot less of a pain in the butt.
Why is it that many doctors dismiss NFP and insist you must pump your body full of hormones through a pill, or a shot or an IUD? One theory is that Big Pharma pushes it on doctors to keep those prescriptions coming. I wouldn’t doubt it. Another is that because medical school is full of education on medicine and how those medicines work (or don’t work), there’s not time to teach how NFP works and how it might benefit patients, as opposed to other methods.
Ultimately, it is human beings’ need/desire to be in control. What’s ironic is, they really are giving up an awful lot of control to birth control pills, shots, IUD’s…right? I mean, they are trusting something that doesn’t have a brain and is designed to thwart a process that can, at any point in time, switch up because it is a force of nature a biological process that is unique and unpredictable (not every woman has 28 days cycles, and even if a woman does have 28 day cycles, one cycle might all of a sudden be 22 days…just because).
I think that you either put your faith in your spouse and yourself, to monitor your biological signs and learn what they mean and trust your spouse and yourself to act according to your agreed upon course of action for that cycle (achieve or avoid)…
OR you put your faith in a pill that even when taken 100% correctly has that chance of allowing a “breakthrough ovulation”…
OR you put your faith in a shot of high-dose hormone that will give you headaches and may or may not keep you from getting pregnant (“breakthrough ovulations” here, too)…
OR you put your faith in an IUD, which actually has a very poor success rate at avoiding pregnancy, but a rather high success rate at ripping apart the inside of your uterus so a newly conceived child can’t implant…
OR you put your faith in some doctor to sterilize you…cut you up and make you into something you were not before (that’s an awful lot of faith if you ask me) and you might end up with some physical, mental or emotional baggage as a result.
You see…every couple makes a decision to put their faith somewhere.
What perplexes me is the fact that so many lack faith in themselves.
Happy almost-tax day, right? Did you know there is some holiday in Washington D.C. that makes it so you have until midnight the 17th this year to mail your return (since the 15th was a Sunday?) File that in the interesting facts you probably couldn’t care to know. 🙂
1. I got a run and a swim in on Saturday! go me! I only swam 1000 yards…but it was in 20 minutes and I ran a 5K (29:58, thank you very much!) on the treadmill first. Ha!
2. Boot Camp, week 4…in progress. You know…I gotta be real here about something. Mostly women read this blog, right? And we want to know each other, right? So if you’re a guy…skip to #3, please. Well, anyway…you know that week every month where you just wish you could stay in bed? Does anyone else put on something like 4-6 pounds those 4 or 5 days? No? Well, don’t tell me then.
3. Prayed a Rosary with the kids last night before bed. And still got them in bed by 8:00 (Vincent was in bed by 8:22, after his bottle). I read this piece at NCR Saturday and it really kind of hit me that I need to do better.
4. I went out to dinner Saturday night with another mom-friend. It was fun! I have gotten into this getting a sitter and going out at least once a month, even though Craig is working on the weekend. I really have no idea why it took until I had 5 kids to think I could do something like that! But it’s been good to connect with other moms or with the ladies at work, or just to go to a movie by myself! I enjoy getting out with Craig, too, but I am finding this once-a-month thing where I go out with friends or on my own is becoming something important.
5. I cleaned each bathroom in our house on Saturday. I have been having the girls clean them, too, as part of their weekly chores. But, you probably understand what I mean when I say, every so often the bathrooms need the Mother’s Touch.
6. We are hosting a little girl from our parish school this week while her parents take a trip. She is in the first grade, but good playmate with Dani and Helen both. I think it will be fun!
7. An awesome part of this arrangement is that this couple offered to keep our kids as a return favor for Craig and me to take a trip somewhere. WOW! Like, they said they’d keep all five of them. For realz.
8. So, I don’t know if I ever mentioned it on here…but Craig got promoted a few months ago! I think officially he is called a Dual Pit Manager and it means that most of the time he is a supervisor, but he can be called in to be a Pit Manager or scheduled to be a Pit Manager to cover absences and such. It’s kind of a half-step up thing to help prepare for the full-time gig of a Pit Manager if one were to become available and Craig wanted to pursue it. Pretty cool, huh?
9. We did a lot of pushups last week at Boot Camp. A. LOT. and my shoulder was hurting this weekend. Just my right one. I’m a little concerned about it, because I figure that if it were only due to soreness, I would feel the same kind of pain in both shoulders. I guess we’ll see how things go this weekend. It sucks getting old, I tell ya.
10. Do you ever remember something and you wonder why? For example, I remember that today, April 16, is Kim Chase’s birthday. Kim Chase was a girl in my class at my Catholic School from 1st grade through 8th grade. And for some reason, every April 16th, I remember that it is her birthday and I mentally say, “Happy Birthday, Kim, wherever you are” because we don’t keep in touch or anything.
So…Happy Birthday, Kim, wherever you are!
Bonus: I realized last night that I told someone that Dominic is 4 years old. But he is 3. See, he is fairly mature for a 3-year-old and communicates in a little more advanced way than a 3-year-old.
For example, on Saturday this exchange took place in our front play room:
Me: Dominic, if you joyfully pick up the toys in this room, I will give you a great big hug!
Dom: mmmmmmmmm, how about you give me 50 cents?
Seriously. I was beside myself.
And I gave him the 50 cents. And he argued with me that I shorted him because it was only two coins.
Have a great Monday!!!
It’s time again for The Saturday Evening Blog Post, hosted by Elizabeth Esther. I was surprised at what I had to choose from in March. But when I saw that March was the month I shared MO Senator Claire McCaskill’s correspondence with me regarding the failed Blunt Amendment and my response to her, I knew that was the one to share.
Be sure to visit Elizabeth Esther‘s blog and meet some other bloggers!
Okay, after a couple of comments, I will go ahead and divulge some info that I hadn’t shared before. the 5% milestone is hit once you have lost 5% of your body weight. I just happened to hit my 5% the same day I also hit 10 pounds. I started at 188, and I am now 177.8. 9 pounds was my 5%. A week ago, I was just 0.8 away from meeting my 5% goal and was kind of annoyed, but figured I’d get there soon. Then this week, I lost 2 pounds so I blew past that 5% milestone AND got my 10 pound milestone together. That was fun. Now the next goal is to have my total loss be 10% of my body weight which would put me at 170. After that I will set an actual goal weight.
I should probably do a post about how much I like Weight Watchers PointsPlus program.
Okay! Yikes!! Thank you Molly for showing me in your comment how an unclear QT of this kind could take on a life of its own! Holy Moly! while my husband and I remain open to life, at this time we are definitely in the TTA segment of using NFP with our youngest being only 9 months and the fact that we’ve not prayerfully discerned to do otherwise. So, no, the announcement was not of the pregnancy sort! 🙂
Actually, my work environment is moving to a Jeans-Every-Day dress code! Yes…we are ALL very happy about it!
Quick Take – Kid Update!
Sarah has a volleyball game tonight. Last week she had two and I was able to watch the first one, but I took the other kids home because 4 hours is just too long for them to hang around a gym not really doing anything. I found out in the second game she had two for-realz “Spikes” over the net for points! I got texts from two of the moms and then I ran into another mom on Saturday who told me about it. Ah…proud moment from this volleyball mama. 🙂
Dani was supposed to start soccer games this week, but last night was rained out. So we wait for Tuesday!
I had Helen’s pictures taken by an individual photography studio. Here are the “teaser photos”. I wish I knew what to expect as far as cost goes…I wanted to buy so many photos…but they are way more expensive (even with a discount!) than going to JC Penny or Portrait Innovations or something. Oh well, they were pretty cute, though.
Dominic actually ate a cheeseburger this week. And then he tried steak fingers last night. I told him that he should try to be a “big preschool boy” and try new food. And it worked (so far)!!! I hope it continues.
Vincent is way too cute. Really. I know every mom thinks her baby is way cute…but seriously. I am so completely head-over-heels in love with that boy. *sigh*
I hope you have a fabulous weekend!